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wing2j here with your better late than never ACoH for today...

So let's just say that when I was a younger man, I made a certain block of shows my permanent Saturday afternoon hangover theater. It was the Action Pack (anyone else remember Time Trax???), and it was awesome. Now being as young and stupid as I was i may have missed a certain level of subtext to one of those shows, but it *did* bring us

( Your December 6th SciFi/Fantasy/ComicBook Hotness... )

And I'd be remiss if I did not mention that she was FREAKING awesome on Battlestar. Really crushed a role that could have been just a throwaway nonsense sort of thing.

• 21:42 @EricMueller I am an African-American tweeta user, not a "twigga," thank you very much! #
• 22:11 @EricMueller I guess white twitter users are twackaz. #
• 22:37 @minimalspace The samples are very hypnotic and dreamy. #
• 11:27 I am feeling ALOT better. #

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If you bring me only one gift this Christmas, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD BRING ME THIS.

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Mags

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“The smallest bookstore still contains more ideas of worth than have been presented in the entire history of television.”

–Andrew Ross

Opening a bookstore one day has been at the top of my Dream Job /  Do What You Love short-list for years, and despite it sometimes seeming about as practical as wanting to become a blacksmith or full-time poet, I haven’t given up hope.

Yet.

I’m a firm believer that independent bookstores are not only critical to the viability of the publishing industry, but also to the cultural and economic fabric of local communities. I’m not anti-Barnes & Noble or Amazon (though I DO hate Wal-Mart on general principle) because I think they serve a more general audience than the independent bookseller can or should attempt to. Indies are Peter Luger’s to B&N’s 7/11, if you will — quality over quantity; curation over commodity.

BUT, I think making that the central pitch of why independent bookstores are important is lame, whiny and stinks of entitlement.

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I give thanks for friends and wool socks. Thanksgiving was Syracuse-Boston-Maine-Syracuse. I read at Lizard Lounge w/ the band Sunday night. I did one fun piece, then read the first 1/3 of my master's thesis draft. Not exactly a crowd-pleaser type of set, but it was fun to stretch out and read a 1/2 hour poem with the band. Mark Rivard was sitting in on bass for Blake, and he was really great. My dad drove back to Syracuse with me and we went steelhead fishing for three days. A frustrating three days: we didn't have a fish on until the last morning, and only landed that one. It's always fun to go fishing w/ Dad, but it's tough to go days at a stretch w/out a bite.

And that's probably why I'm smiling so much in this picture, even though it's before dawn and it's snowing. That's right: Flyfishing in the dark, in a snowstorm. As trout go, a three-pound fish is pretty nice, but we saw 15-pounders being landed. That's what keeps us going back.



At Lizard Lounge (there really is a three-piece jazz band behind me--they're just hiding in the dark):

• 20:45 Johnny Mnemonic could hold 80 gig in his head, 160 with a doubler. What was all the hassle over, someone's mp3 collection? #
• 20:58 @jenniferbrozek Check your inbox, Tomorrowland awaits. #
• 21:07 @smilinstanlee Congrats, Stan! Excelsior! #

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A friend of mine recently got back with his controlling ex for the second or third time of what will most likely be twenty or thirty times. That, combined with my sister staying with her husband despite incessant cheating and lying, has really gotten me thinking about relationships. Are some people simply programmed to be with people who abuse them?

I'm not really talking about a need here. I'm wondering if some people need to be with abusers in order to survive. Would these people actually be unhappy if they were with stable people who didn't abuse them in some way? I think they'd either get bored or they'd try really hard to encourage the people they were with to abuse them.

Does every self-actualized person really want the same thing? Should every relationship work the same way? We all like to compare everybody else's lives to our own, but what if other people can really only get along in life in a certain way? I know I can't stand it when people abuse me, but there was a time in my life when I let my significant other take serious advantage of me. Could my first relationship have happened any other way based on who I was at the time? I don't think so. I needed it to happen in order to learn exactly what I didn't want as well as what I needed to change about myself in order to have the kind of relationship I really wanted. But what about people who don't want to change anything about their situation? Or, as is often the case, people who say they want change but never do anything about it? Why do we develop such unhealthy attachments to people?

The common answer is that we don't want to be alone, so we cling to whatever we have in order to avoid the emptiness that can come from being by ourselves. I think it's more due to habit than anything else. We get used to having that person there, just like we get used to having caffeine or cigarettes. We don't like empty spaces in our lives, as a general rule, and people leaving leave big ol' gaps of activity and time that we'll have to learn to fill on our own again. Some people just can't handle that.

Some people really just love the drama, too. They like having something to bitch about and want their abuser in their lives so they can feel interesting and as if they have purpose. These people need another person in their lives in order to feel complete or like a person at all. Can people with these traits "overcome" their desire to have a partner, or are they doomed from the beginning? Is it possible that they're just wired that way?

My sister's husband has cheated on her and lied to her so many times I'm just numb to it all. I can't even get outraged by it anymore, or saddened. It's just as plain as if he were eating a bagel and she kept telling me about it. Why would she complain about something so commonplace unless she felt it were her lot in life? Like she deserved it and, maybe, it defined her? I know nobody could be thick enough to think it won't happen again; this time, things really will be different. My friend has to know things will be the same, but he goes back to his ex, anyway. What propels people to avoid change so much that they'll throw their own lives away?

My own weaknesses in relationships had to do with my inexperience, with my self-loathing, with my complete uncertainty about myself. Can I legitimately cast those excuses upon other people, though? Or are they just built to require abuse in their lives in order to thrive and exist in their own way?

Previously, on Twitter...

• 10:50 Miley Cyrus' "Party in the USA" is why Jennifer Lopez isn't a country singer. And name-checking Britney? My ears are bleeding. #fb #
• 11:53 @ChuckWendig Can't help with recipes, but check out my friend Kevin's BBQ blog for inspiration: meatwagonbbq.blogspot.com/ #
• 12:07 "But this is 2009, and the American audience doesn’t want to see people on the TV being nice." - My friend... tumblr.com/xbd4h1fim #
• 12:23 Photo: (via augustwren) I took a bike ride through downtown Bloomfield this morning after dropping off our... tumblr.com/xbd4h1s6f #
• 12:53 "The way that a book was published doesn’t matter at all. All that matters is the book." @selfpubreview bit.ly/7GJ2Og (Agreed.) #
• 13:08 @changinghands That's exactly the point @selfpubreview makes in the post. "Poorly done" books aren't unique to self-pub. #
• 13:33 Anyone read The Yellow-Lighted Bookshop (Buzbee) or Every Book Its Reader (Basbanes)? Recommend either? #bookreview #
• 13:57 I've contributed over 100 reviews to Amazon over the years, and zero to IndieBound. Why? Because IndieBound doesn't enable
  reviews. #fail #
• 14:00 My Amazon profile (bit.ly/853R2r) vs. my IndieBound profile (bit.ly/8N14wd). Which one feels more like a community site? #
• 14:01 @MoriahJovan But they have an iPhone app! *squee* /sarcasm #
• 23:28 RE: @knownhuman That's some fancy company you've got me in there. Flattered and feeling challenged to keep up! Thanks.… disq.us/53oqi #
• 23:53 "Glue Genie suggests United States because you liked John Lasseter." I loved Toy Story 1 and 2 and Cars, but hunh?!?! bit.ly/6NBHw3 #

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• 12:06 Anyone who's at Barefoot today: if you see my gaming group, can you check to see that they got my message? #

Having witnesed Princess Teacup while was performing eir daily, a-HEM, Twitter "business", you shall now be transformed into biscotti.

You can thank LoudTwitter for your current predicament.

• 18:48 @snurri Yeah, there's a big difference between 911 and 9/11. (Off topic, but Chuck D showed up at the place I'm temping) #
• 18:59 @snurri No....he was meeting with the big wigs so I just gotta glimpse of him. I should have shown up in my Flavor Flav outfit that day... #
• 20:51 Lambda Rising bookstore is closing this year: www.lambdarising.com/NASApp/store/IndexJsp #
• 22:21 @Gwenda I am sick too. And I want cocktails too. Life sucks. #

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Sorry, y'all. We're just going to have to extend the ACoH for a day or two. This year, it's going to Boxing Day and beyond!

One of the things we tend to do over the winter when baseball has cruelly abandoned us is to pick one show to watch straight through on Netflix. One year, it was Alias. Another year, Arrested Development. Heck, one year, it was Friday Night Lights, and you know we're loyal converts of all three. (Well, except for the last season of Alias. What the fuck was that mess?)

We like Fringe so far, we think. It's just the right mix of 'science' (okay,not even 'science' is accurate with this show, but whatever) and action and deadpan humor. We'll see how we feel when the first season's over, but we haven't exactly wasted our time.

So that brings us to the third entry in the ACoH:

( I bring you... )

Synopsis of episode 103 of the PBS show Dinosaur Train:

"Beating the Heat - Buddy and Tiny travel to the Jurassic to make a new friend, Morris Stegosaurus, and discover how this huge dinosaur keeps cool in the heat.Flowers for Mom - The kids go to the Big Pond to look for flowers to give to Mom on her special Mothers Day. They find many different flowers while following a very busy bee." [Emphasis mine.]

Now furries are gonna think my fursona is based on this character, and I'm not even a stegosaurus.

Honestly, I am amused more than anything, but should I like make a big (though humorous) deal out of this, for the purpose of garnering publicity? Should I send PBS a mock-sternly worded letter?

• 16:41 Paul Nelson reveals the poetic history the town once known as "Slaughter, Washington." kuow.org/program.php?id=18937 #

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• 03:37 @adamjury I'd start watching SOA from Season One, but that's just me. #
• 08:58 Up at 3am working on the layout for Savage Suzerain, now Jeannine and I are off to meet her parents for breakfast. It's Jeannine's birthday! #

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Anyone else going to see Ezra's movie tonight at MCAD at 7pm? Want to get a drink before or after?

I don't work in the morning!